The “Best Friends” Approach

Recently, I’ve come to realise that the “Best Friends” approach doesn’t work. For those who are wondering, it’s what I’m calling the dating tactic of becoming best friends with your love interest, in the vague hope that one day they’ll turn to you, and declare their undying love for you.

One of the most famous examples of friends falling in love is the story of Monica and Chandler from Friends. And I figured that, if it worked for them, why shouldn’t it work for me, completely ignoring the fact that they are fictional characters, and that there’s a benevolent writer behind their relationship.

My first (and only!) relationship came from a “friends first” approach, but with that, I’m guessing that the fact that we’d only known each other for a few months probably helped in this situation. After all, that’s the main difference between him and the other people I’ve gone for the “friends approach” with.

My most recent “friends approach” worked wonders, in the fact that we’re good friends. In the relationship side – it failed completely. I guess the most accurate depiction of this approach is in the TV show Glee – with Kurt and Finn’s relationship. It’s clear to almost all viewers that they’ll never be in a relationship, but it’s never clear to the person who wants to be with someone so badly that they use any means they can to get close to them.

Since moving away from university, I’ve changed my approach to a lot of things. Maybe this is just something else to adjust in the world of growing up.

Here we go again…

Rightio, let’s give this blogging thing one more try.

No guarantees on frequent updates, or anything of any interest to anyone, but let’s just see how things go.